Do you think back on the early days of your marriage, or maybe your dating life, and wonder where the loving, fun, enjoyable relationship with your spouse went?
When you first noticed there was a difference in the way you looked at each other and talked to each other, it was startling and disheartening. Though, after years of just going through the motions, you have begrudgingly accepted that your marriage will never be the same.
And you know what? It will never be the same. You have experienced trials together, you’ve had arguments and children and career changes and well… Life happened. While it will never be the same as it was five or 25 years ago, your marriage can be better and stronger than it was on your wedding day. Yes, even in the midst of your ugly ruts and habits.
Many of you may be rolling your eyes at this point. Trust me, it’s true! Scott Kedersha, author and director of marriage ministry at Watermark Community Church in Dallas, Texas, recently shared how a broken marriage can be restored with TheCourage as part of an exclusive audio interview inside Kirk Cameron’s The Campfire.
For the couple who feels like they have lost all hope in their marriage, Kedersha encouraged them to seek out “the gift of community and friendships.” He goes on to say that he would “lovingly encourage any couple that is stuck to find friendships through the church that will love them, take care of them, and encourages them in their marriage.”
I believe the reason we become stuck in any relationship is that we are looking at the situation with one perspective… Our own! If we are constantly evaluating the health of our marriage with only one narrative, we will continue down the same path of destruction and isolation. Though, with the help of true, God-fearing friends who are willing to speak the truth to you in love, you and your spouse can discover a whole new life together.
Faithful are the wounds of a friend; profuse are the kisses of an enemy. Proverbs 27:6
Kedersha also shared a resource for couples if they are ready to make a change in their relationship. Listen to a clip from the audio interview below.
With years of experiencing counseling and caring for couples at all stages of life, Scott Kedersha’s wisdom and advice for marriage is truly invaluable. You can hear more of what he shared for finding joy in your marriage today by subscribing to a free 14-day trial of the Campfire — the exclusive home for Kirk Cameron insiders — here.
Don’t continue struggling in your marriage alone. Bring community in. You will not regret it.